Ask Ananda – Am I an Alcoholic?

Thank you for writing about your concern. I would be interested to know if your drinking was a concern before you got married, or why you would mention your marriage in September. Does your spouse have a concern about your drinking as well?

Having a glass of wine or even enjoying a bottle itself is not really the problem. A problem would be posed if you were drinking that entire bottle to avoid something. Are you staying up drinking to avoid going to bed with your spouse? Are you drinking the bottle because you are trying to escape some nagging thoughts? Are you using the bottle of wine as a distraction from doing what it is you think you “should” be doing?

It’s not for me to comment, simply from one email message, whether you are an alcoholic. Deep down, you know your truth. Only you can answer that question. And while you ponder that question, ask yourself:
Do I really love and accept myself, just the way I am?

Am I drinking to avoid my life?
Do I want to continue these patterns? Am I willing to try to change?

If you can be honest with yourself and if you are willing to try to change, the rest will simply begin to fall into place. If you want to continue to explore this concern, you can always contact me to book a private appointment.